"I know I chatter on far too much...
but if you only knew how many things I want to say and don't.
Give me some credit."
~Anne Shirley, Anne of Green Gables
So many things pass before my eyes and ears day to day and some create a burning in my soul. I must not be silent!
Recent descriptions of me by others have often included the word "passion." A relative (who will remain unnamed) recently
accused stated that I was far too black and white. Well, she didn't really say it like that, but she meant it that way. And I can't say that I am really all that offended except for the fact that I obviously meet with this person's disapproval in this area (as well as several others, I am certain). That as she has grown older, more "gray areas" have come to prominence in her life. I know it is fully possible that I am immature, impulsive and too rigid in many areas. But even Jesus said, "I wish that you were either hot or cold, but since you are lukewarm, I will spew you out of my mouth." (Rev. 3:16) This critic of my black-and-white-ness stated that Jesus was more of a gray-area guy and she proceeded to use the example of the woman accused of adultery (John 8) and how the law was clear but Jesus didn't condemn her. My response (partly out of pride, self-righteousness and maybe truth) was , "That's not a 'gray' area, that's a 'grace' area. Jesus doesn't have gray areas, He has grace areas." I too want to be a woman of grace. I try to exhibit that with my children. I appreciate Sally Clarkson's position that we ought to be practicing grace-based parenting, and I really strive for that though my natural black-and-white inclination causes me much trouble in this area.
So, is life to be
gray gracious and merciful, or black and white?
In some things, love and forgiveness must reign rather than the rule of law...for the sake of teaching and promoting the loving character of God. But sometimes, we should never shrink, never compromise, never back down. In ideals, standards, holiness, righteousness. Now, I am in no way a master of which scenario is grace-based and which is uncompromising. I tend to lean toward grace with my kids; with people who have sinned immensely and suffered grave consequences but God has given new life to --- after all if God gives second chances, I ought to as well.
Still I don't think the black and white lines ever blur to gray. But I think grace supersedes law. And we need to ask God for wisdom to know how to handle every circumstance and offense.
And we ought to stand firm on those things in which we ought not to waiver:
the one true God,
His institution of family,
loyalty to the country in which He has caused us to reside
(so long as the governing principles of that country are in line with His perfect word).
What do you think?
Are things black and white, and gray?
Or are there no gray areas but only "grace" areas?
My tunnel vision mind can only calculate black and white at the moment.
Enlighten me. :)